We don’t lack ability. We lack incentive.
When you see something astonishing you can rest assured that it came into being by some sorta driving force and that creative force is motivation. And it’s hard to be motivated when you’re complaining.
If you’re anything like me, I’m sure you’ve been told: “complaining will get you nowhere.” Though, it’s really relative to how you look at that statement. Complaining will actually get you somewhere, but only if you decide to take action and make a change.
We complain when things in our lives both stay stagnant and evolve, and they are the very things that hold us back.
Your complaints hold you back
Pleasing a “need” is a never-ending battle. As soon as we get a grip on the present, it fades into the past. We’re constantly trying to get a grip on something that will never be enough. Notice when your thoughts or conversations are full of complaints. Complaining has the ability to solidify where you are currently. When you complain, you recruit people that do the same.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Do you have a kung fu grip on the difference between venting and complaining?
- Why are you complaining?
- Who benefits from your complaints?
- Is your audience louder than your complaints?
Instead of complaining about life’s challenges, perhaps we can embrace the fact that life’s only training us to be prepared for what we’re aiming for, and then we can get inspired and motivated.
What exactly is motivation?
Motivation is said to be the driving force by which humans achieve their goals. To achieve these types of goals, you must be willing to work extra hard and punch any & all obstacles in the fucking face. Without this motivation and drive, you’re better off just submitting and settling for average.
Imagine the loss of motivation, there wouldn’t be many scientific & medical discoveries, and we surely wouldn’t have iPhones, drones, smart watches, etc. Many of these achievements exist not because of some egghead nerd that constantly reminded the teacher to pick up the homework but simply because they were the most driven. It’s that simple, that’s it.
Intrinsic Vs. Extrinsic
When it comes to motivation, there are two types “intrinsic” and “extrinsic.” Intrinsic motivation typically refers to the kind of motivation that is driven by your personal interest or passion for the particular subject itself. Basically, this is when you aren’t obligated to require any outside pressure to show interest.
On the other hand, extrinsic motivation comes from outside resources, basically “hookups.” Incentives such as money, discounts, gifts, or some type of recognition. It could also come from blackmail or threats.
So as you can see, it goes without saying you cannot separate both rewards and motivation. Even from an intrinsic viewpoint, the reward may be the personal satisfaction of completing a task to the best of your ability.
The Greatest Sacrifices Deserve The Greatest Rewards
Bruce Lee threw thousands of punches and kicks daily, and Kobe Bryant was the first to arrive at practice and the last to leave the court. Muhammad Ali wasn’t the most ripped or in-shape boxer. However, his drive to succeed could never have been duplicated or penetrated. Michael Jackson – well, do I even need to go there? If you aren’t pickin’ up what I’m putting down. LISTEN UP! What I’m saying is you’re the sum of your repeated actions.
Real motivation comes from real goals, real passion and genuine desire.
The first step in motivating yourself is to decide clearly on the reward you want to achieve. To take that a step further, learn to separate your wants & needs. Everyone has a want: losing weight, becoming rich, quitting their current job, or being successful. All of these things are 200% achievable.
Everyone thinks of what they should be doing but nobody thinks of what if they didn’t do it.
Reintroduce the word “must” into your vocabulary. Instead of wanting to lose weight, tell yourself that you must lose weight, have no choice, and your life literally depends on it. Then own up to it. Take action and reap the rewards of your hard work.
When you know clearly what you want and how much you NEED it to happen, DO IT as you can now take the next step. You can think of ways to make your dream happen. So get motivated and start achieving your dreams now!
As you accomplish goals in life, you’ll suddenly find that you’ll attract people that are either in search of what you just completed or individuals that have accomplished what you have and can help you progress to the next level.
