You here then.
There’s the thing we never imagined would happen. It's the unspeakable - the sudden and unexpected event that transforms us forever, disrupting our existence as we know it. It's that event, the one that instantly creates a fierce storm of complex feelings and profound emotions. The pivotal moment we don't want to experience or face, but it comes anyway and changes us forever.
It can be the sudden death of someone you love or the catastrophic illness that seizes a loved one’s body. It can be an accident. It can be deliberate. It can be your baby, your child, a daughter, your son, a sister, your brother, a lover, a spouse, a friend, a mother, your father, it can be anyone - no one is immune from loss or death. No matter how we arrive at this vulnerable point - we’re here.
You here then. You here now.
You’ll never be the same, left behind trying to make sense of things that defy logic. Our intellect tries to understand the why. But, this is a matter of the heart. This complex equation is unsolvable.
When sudden loss or tragedy strikes, grief can come on like a fierce hurricane leaving devastation in its wake. Then there are the times that we still will encounter death, its accompanying grief and difficult circumstances. But we come to understand that it is part of the continuous cycle of life, nature in action. We’re downhearted, and this grief is not less than the considerable grief from sudden loss, it’s merely different.
An aging grandmother dies peacefully. A sick mother dies. An elderly father dies. It is still incredibly challenging for those left behind but, maybe we’re just a little more prepared. Maybe, their last few years prepared us and, we gently began the grief process whilst they were still living? The likely storm naturally comes. It undoubtedly hurts. There is visible damage.
We are changed, but we are still here teetering on the edge of the abyss until we can regain our footing and move to higher ground.
